Why You Can’t Be “Anything You Want to Be”

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For years we have been told and we tell our children “You can be anything you want to be.” We have believed that if we work hard enough for something we can attain it. That has been part of the American Dream. Unfortunately it is just not true and we do ourselves and our children a great disservice by by believing and saying it.

A simple and obvious example is that I can not be a concert pianist or a star ball player if I don’t have the skill, motivation, aptitude and gifts to do so. I may think I want to be a physician, lawyer, computer programmer, etc. but if I don’t have the motivation to do the things required by those jobs I won’t be able to do them – not well anyway and not with any sort of joy.

Here is the bottom line. We are all wired in our own ways to do what we do in the way we do it. We all have an underlying motivation to do a certain thing (like over come obstacles, build and develop, extract potential, etc.) and we try to apply that motivation to everything we do.

We also have certain skills and abilities we use, certain subject matter we work with, certain ways we relate to others and certain circumstances within which we do these things. When all of this comes together we find ourselves in a state of doing something we love doing and doing it well. It is our gift in life.

We should all strive to find our what this is for us and then try to capture it in whatever career we choose and in the activities we attempt in our daily living. This will allow us to experience the state of flow – or mountain top experience – more often in life and it will result in living a life of joy and fulfillment.

There is only one way I know of that we can find this information out about ourselves. It involves analyzing our past experiences of being in flow and coming up with the five dimentions of skills and abilities, subject matter, ways we relate to others, circumstances and motivation we use. There is one assessment tool that does this for us. It is called SIMA™ – The System for Identifying Motivated Abilities and it is dynamite.

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